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How To Step Into Your Feminine Power With The Wisdom Of The Dakinis


Lama Tsultrim Allione—one of many first American lady ordained as a Tibetan Buddhist nun..

shares what she’s discovered about love, life, and liberty whereas researching dakinis, or fierce feminine messengers of knowledge.

Once I was eleven, I ran residence on the final day of faculty and tore off my gown, actually popping the buttons off, feeling concurrently responsible and liberated. I placed on an previous, torn pair of cutoff jean shorts, a white T-shirt, and blue Keds sneakers, and ran with my sister into the woods behind our previous colonial New Hampshire home. We went to play within the brook burbling down the steep hill over the mossy rocks, by means of the evergreens and deciduous timber, the water coloured wealthy red-brown by the tannins within the leaves of the maple timber. We might play and catch foot-long white suckerfish with our palms, after which put them again as a result of we didn’t need to kill them.

Typically we swam bare at night time with associates at our summerhouse within the spring-fed lake 15 miles away, surrounded by pine, birch, spruce, and maple timber. I liked the sensation of the water caressing my pores and skin like velvet, with the moon reflecting within the mirror-like lake. My sister and my good friend Joanie and I might get on our ponies bareback and urge them into the lake till they have been surging up and down with water dashing over our thighs and down the backs of the horses; they have been swimming with us as we laughed, clinging onto their backs.

When violent summer time thunderstorms blew by way of, as an alternative of staying within the previous picket home I might run and dance outdoors within the rain and thunder, scaring my mom. I appreciated to eat with my fingers, gnawing on pork chop bones and gulping down massive glasses of milk, in a rush to get again outdoors. I liked gnawing on bones. My mom would shake her head, saying in desperation, “Oh, darling, please, please eat together with your fork! Heavens alive, I’m elevating a barbarian!”

Barbarian, I assumed, that sounds nice! I imagined ladies with lengthy hair streaming out behind them, racing their horses over vast plains. I noticed streaked sunrises on crisp mornings with no faculty, bones to gnaw on. This wildness was a lot part of me; I might by no means think about dwelling a life that didn’t permit for it.

However then I used to be a spouse and a mom elevating two younger daughters, and that wild younger barbarian appeared lifetimes away. Paul and I had been married for 3 years once we determined to maneuver from Vashon Island again to Boulder, Colorado, and be a part of Trungpa Rinpoche’s group. It was fantastic to be in an enormous, lively group with many younger mother and father. Nevertheless, the pressure of the early years, our inexperience, and our personal particular person progress led us to determine to separate and collaborate as co-parents.

In 1978, I had been a single mom for a number of years once I met an Italian filmmaker, Costanzo Allione, who was directing a movie on the Beat poets of Naropa College. He interviewed me as a result of I used to be Allen Ginsberg’s meditation teacher, and Allen, whom I had met once I was a nun in 1972, launched me to Costanzo. Within the spring of 1979, we have been married in Boulder whereas he was ending his movie, which was referred to as Fried Footwear Cooked Diamonds, and shortly thereafter we moved to Italy. I obtained pregnant that summer time whereas we have been dwelling in a trailer in an Italian campground on the ocean close to Rome, and that fall we moved right into a drafty summer time villa within the Alban Hills close to the city of Velletri.

Once I was six months pregnant, my stomach measured the dimensions of a nine-months pregnant lady’s, in order that they did an ultrasound and found I used to be pregnant with twins. By this time I knew that my husband was a drug addict and untrue. I couldn’t converse the native language and felt utterly remoted. In March of 1980, I gave delivery to twins, Chiara and Costanzo; they have been somewhat early, however every weighed over 5 kilos. I buckled right down to nursing two infants, caring for my different two daughters, and coping with my husband’s habit, erratic temper swings, and bodily abuse, which began throughout my being pregnant when he started to hit me.

My emotions of overwhelm and nervousness elevated day by day, and I started to marvel about how my life as a mom and a Western lady actually related with my Buddhist spirituality. How had issues ended up like this? How had I misplaced that wild, unbiased woman and left my life as a nun, ending up in Italy with an abusive husband? It appeared that by selecting to disrobe, I had misplaced my path, and myself.

Then two months later, on June 1, 1980, I awakened from an evening of damaged sleep and stumbled into the room the place Chiara and her brother Costanzo have been sleeping. I nursed him first as a result of he was crying, after which turned to her. She appeared very quiet. Once I picked her up, I instantly knew: she felt stiff and lightweight. I remembered the same feeling from my childhood, choosing up my small marmalade coloured kitten that had been hit by a automotive and crawled beneath a bush to die. Round Chiara’s mouth and nostril was purple bruising the place blood had pooled; her eyes have been closed, however her lovely, delicate amber hair was the identical and she or he nonetheless smelled candy. Her tiny physique was there, however she was gone. Chiara had died of sudden toddler dying syndrome.

Buddhist Temple

The Buddhist stupa of Swayambhu within the Kathmandu Valley, Nepal.

Bikalpa Pokhrel

The Dakini Spirit

Following Chiara’s dying got here what I can solely name a descent. I used to be crammed with confusion, loss, and grief. Buffeted by uncooked, intense feelings, I felt greater than ever that I desperately wanted some feminine steerage. I wanted to show someplace: to ladies’s tales, to ladies academics, to something that might information me as a mom, dwelling this lifetime of motherhood—to attach me to my very own expertise as a lady and as a critical Buddhist practitioner on the trail. I wanted the tales of dakinis—fierce feminine messengers of knowledge in Tibetan Buddhism. However I actually didn’t know the place to show. I seemed into all types of assets, however I couldn’t discover my solutions.

Sooner or later in my search, the belief got here to me: I’ve to seek out them myself. I’ve to seek out their tales. I wanted to analysis the life tales of the Buddhist ladies of the previous and see if I might uncover some thread, some key that may assist unlock the solutions concerning the dakinis and information me by means of this passage. If I might discover the dakinis, I might discover my religious position fashions—I might see how they did it. I might see how they made the connections between mom, spouse, and lady . . . how they built-in spirituality with on a regular basis life challenges.

A few yr later, I used to be in California doing a retreat with my instructor, Namkhai Norbu Rinpoche, who was educating a apply referred to as Chöd that concerned invoking the presence of one of many nice feminine masters of Tibetan Buddhism, Machig Labdrön. And on this apply there’s an invocation, by which you visualize her as a younger, dancing, 16-year-old white dakini. So there I used to be doing this follow with him, and for some cause that night time he stored repeating it. We should have executed it for a number of hours. Then through the part of the follow the place we invoked Machig Labdrön, I instantly had the imaginative and prescient of one other feminine type rising out of the darkness.

What I noticed behind her was a cemetery from which she was rising. She was previous, with lengthy, pendulous breasts that had fed many infants; golden pores and skin; and grey hair that was streaming out. She was staring intensely at me, like an invite and a problem. On the similar time, there was unimaginable compassion in her eyes. I used to be shocked as a result of this lady wasn’t what I used to be presupposed to be seeing. But there she was, approaching very near me, her lengthy hair flowing, and taking a look at me so intensely. Lastly, on the finish of this follow, I went as much as my instructor and stated, “Does Machig Labdrön ever seem in another types?”

He checked out me and stated, “Sure.” He didn’t say any extra.

I went to mattress that night time and had a dream during which I used to be making an attempt to get again to Swayambhu Hill in Nepal, the place I’d lived as a nun, and I felt an unimaginable sense of urgency. I needed to get again there and it wasn’t clear why; on the similar time, there have been all types of obstacles. A struggle was happening, and I struggled by way of many limitations to lastly attain the hill, however the dream didn’t full itself. I awoke nonetheless not understanding why I used to be making an attempt to return.

The subsequent night time I had the identical dream. It was barely totally different, and the set of obstacles modified, however the urgency to get again to Swayambhu was simply as robust. Then on the third night time, I had the identical dream once more. It’s actually uncommon to have the identical dream repeatedly and once more, and I lastly realized that the goals have been making an attempt to inform me I had to return to Swayambhu; they have been sending me a message. I spoke to my instructor concerning the goals and requested, “Does this look like perhaps I ought to truly go there?”

He considered it for some time; once more, he merely answered, “Sure.”

I made a decision to return to Nepal, to Swayambhu, to seek out the tales of girls academics. It took a number of months of planning and preparations, a key half being to hunt out the biographies of the good feminine Buddhist academics. I might use the journey to return to the supply and discover these yogini tales and position fashions I so desperately wanted. I went alone, leaving my youngsters within the care of my husband and his mother and father. It was an emotional and troublesome determination, since I had by no means been away from my youngsters, however there was a deep calling inside me that I needed to honor and belief.

Again in Nepal, I discovered myself strolling up the exact same staircase, one step after one other, up the Swayambhu Hill, which I had first climbed in 1967. Now it was 1982, and I used to be the mom of three. Once I emerged on the prime, an expensive good friend of mine was there to greet me, Gyalwa, a monk I had recognized since my first go to. It was as if he was anticipating me. I advised him I used to be on the lookout for the tales of girls, and he stated, “Oh, the life tales of dakinis. Okay, come again in a number of days.”

And so I did. Once I returned, I went into his room within the basement of the monastery, and he had an enormous Tibetan e-book in entrance of him, which was the life story of Machig Labdrön, who’d based the Chöd apply and had emerged to me as a wild, gray-haired dakini in my imaginative and prescient in California. What advanced out of that was analysis, and ultimately the delivery of my ebook Ladies of Knowledge, which tells my story and supplies the interpretation of six biographies of Tibetan academics who have been embodiments of nice dakinis. The ebook was my hyperlink to the dakinis, and it additionally confirmed me, from the large response the e-book acquired, that there was an actual want—a longing­—for the tales of nice ladies academics. It was a phenomenal affirmation of the necessity for the sacred female.

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Coming Out of the Darkish

Through the strategy of writing Ladies of Knowledge, I needed to do analysis on the historical past of the female in Buddhism. What I found was that for the primary thousand years in Buddhism, there have been few representations of the sacred female, though there have been ladies within the Buddhist sangha (group) as nuns and lay householder devotees, and the Buddha’s spouse and the stepmother who raised him had a considerably elevated standing. However there have been no feminine buddhas and no female rules, and positively no dakinis. It was not till the normal Mahayana Buddhist teachings joined with the Tantric teachings and developed into Vajrayana or Tantric Buddhism within the eighth century, that we started to see the female emerge with a bigger position.

Earlier than we proceed, I need to distinguish right here between neo-Tantra and extra conventional Tantric Buddhism. Most individuals lately who see the phrase Tantra take into consideration neo-Tantra, which has developed within the West as a type of sacred sexuality derived from, however deviating considerably from, conventional Buddhist or Hindu Tantra. Neo-Tantra gives a view of sexuality that contrasts with the repressive angle towards sexuality as nonspiritual and profane.

Buddhist Tantra, also called Vajrayana (Indestructible Car), is rather more complicated than neo-Tantra and embedded in meditation, deity yoga, and mandalas—it’s yoga with an emphasis on the need of a religious instructor and transmission. I’ll use the phrases Tantra and Vajrayana interchangeably all through this guide. Tantra makes use of the artistic act of visualization, sound, and hand gestures (mudras) to interact our entire being within the strategy of meditation. It’s a apply of full engagement and embodiment of our entire being. And inside Buddhist Tantra, typically sexuality is used as a meta-phor for the union of knowledge and skillful means. Though sexual follow strategies exist, Buddhist Tantra is a wealthy and sophisticated religious path with an extended historical past, whereas neo-Tantra is an extraction from conventional Tantric sexual practices with some additions that don’t have anything to do with it. So right here once I say Tantra or Vajrayana, I’m referring to not neo-Tantra however to conventional Buddhist Tantra.

Tantric Buddhism arose in India in the course of the Pala Empire, whose kings dominated India primarily between the eighth and eleventh centuries. Keep in mind that Buddhism had already existed for greater than a thousand years by this time, so Vajrayana was a late improvement within the historical past of Buddhism. The union of Buddhism and Tantra was thought-about to be in some ways the crown jewel of the Pala interval.

Though the origins of Buddhist Tantra are nonetheless being debated by students, plainly it arose out of very historic pre-Aryan roots represented in Shaktism and Saivism combining with Mahayana Buddhism. Although there’s nonetheless scholarly debate concerning the origins of Vajrayana, Tibetans say it was practiced and taught by the Buddha. If we take a look at the Pala interval, we discover a state of affairs the place the Buddhist monks have been going alongside for greater than a thousand years, they usually have turn into very intellectually astute, creating numerous faculties of refined philosophy, Buddhist universities, and an entire tradition related to Buddhism that could be very robust and alive. However at this level the monks have additionally grow to be concerned with politics, and have begun to personal land and animals and to obtain jewels and different riches as presents from rich patrons. Additionally they have grow to be somewhat remoted from the lay group, dwelling a kind of elite, mental, and moderately unique existence.

The Tantric revolution—and it was a revolution within the sense that it was a serious turning level—passed off inside that context. When the Tantric teachings joined Buddhism, we see the doorway of the lay group, individuals who have been working within the on a regular basis world, doing abnormal jobs and elevating youngsters. They could come from any stroll of life: jewelers, farmers, shopkeepers, royalty, cobblers, blacksmiths, wooden gatherers, to call a couple of. They labored in numerous sorts of occupations, together with housewives. They weren’t monks who had remoted themselves from worldly life, and their religious apply mirrored their experiences. There are lots of early tales, referred to as the Siddha Tales, of people that lived and labored in abnormal conditions, and who by turning their life experiences right into a religious follow achieved enlightenment.

There are additionally some tales of enlightened ladies practitioners and academics in early Buddhism. We see a blossoming of girls gurus, and in addition the presence of feminine Buddhas and, in fact, the dakinis. In lots of tales, these ladies taught the mental monks in a really direct, juicy method by uniting spirituality with sexuality; they taught based mostly on utilizing, relatively than renouncing, the senses. Their teachings took the discovered monks out of the monastery into actual life with all its rawness, which is why a number of of the Tantric tales start with a monk in a monastic college who has a visitation from a lady that drives him out in quest of one thing past the monastic partitions.

Tantric Buddhism has a style of literature referred to as “reward of girls,” by which the virtues of girls are extolled. From the Candamaharosana Tantra: “When one speaks of the virtues of girls, they surpass these of all dwelling beings. Wherever one finds tenderness or protectiveness, it’s within the minds of girls. They supply sustenance to pals and strangers alike. A lady who’s like that’s as superb as Vajrayogini herself.”

There isn’t a precedent for this in Buddhist literature, however in Buddhist Tantric texts, writings urge respect for ladies, and tales concerning the unfavourable outcomes of failing to acknowledge the religious qualities of girls are current. And actually, in Buddhist Tantra, the fourteenth root of downfall is the failure to acknowledge all ladies because the embodiment of knowledge.

Within the Tantric interval, there was a motion abolishing obstacles to ladies’s participation and progress on the religious path, providing an important various to the monastic universities and ascetic traditions. On this motion, one finds ladies of all castes, from queens and princesses to outcasts, artisans, winemakers, pig herders, courtesans, and housewives.

For us immediately, that is necessary as we’re on the lookout for feminine fashions of spirituality that combine and empower ladies, as a result of most of us won’t pursue a monastic life, but many people have deep religious longings. Beforehand excluded from educating males or holding positions of management, ladies—for whom it was even questioned whether or not they might attain enlightenment—have been now pioneering, educating, and assuming management roles, shaping and galvanizing a revolutionary motion. There have been no institutional obstacles stopping ladies from excelling on this custom. There was no spiritual regulation or priestly caste defining their participation.

Dakini Symbols

One other necessary a part of the Tantric follow is using symbols surrounding and being held by the deities. The primary and doubtless mostly related image of the dakini is what’s referred to as the trigug in Tibetan, the kartari in Sanskrit, and in English, “the hooked knife.” This can be a crescent-shaped knife with a hook on the top of the blade and a deal with that’s ornamented with totally different symbols. It’s modeled from the Indian butcher’s knife and typically referred to as a “chopper.” The hook on the top of the blade known as the “hook of compassion.” It’s the hook that pulls sentient beings out of the ocean of struggling. The blade cuts via self-clinging, and thru the dualistic cut up into the good bliss. The chopping fringe of the knife is consultant of the slicing high quality of knowledge, the knowledge that cuts by way of self-deception. To me it’s a highly effective image of the sensible female, as a result of I discover that always ladies have a tendency to hold on too lengthy and never minimize by way of what must be minimize by means of. We might grasp on to relationships which might be unhealthy, as an alternative of ending what must be ended. The hooked knife is held within the dakini’s raised proper hand; she should grasp this energy and be able to strike. The blade is the form of the crescent moon, and the time of the month related to the dakini is ten days after the complete moon, when the waning moon seems as a crescent at daybreak; that is the twenty-fifth day of the lunar cycle and known as Dakini Day within the Tibetan calendar. Once I come out early on these days and it’s nonetheless darkish, I lookup and see the crescent moon; it all the time jogs my memory of the dakini’s knife.

The opposite factor concerning the dakinis is that they’re dancing. So that is an expression when all bodily actions grow to be the expression of enlightened thoughts. All actions categorical awakening. Dance can also be an expression of internal ecstasy. The dakini has her proper leg raised and her left leg prolonged. The raised proper leg symbolizes absolute fact. The prolonged left leg rests on the bottom, symbolizing the relative fact, the reality about being on the planet, the traditional fact. She’s additionally bare, so what does that imply? She symbolizes bare consciousness­—the unadorned fact, free from deception. And she or he is standing on a corpse, which symbolizes that she has overcome self-clinging; the corpse represents the ego. She has overcome her personal ego.

The dakini additionally wears bone jewellery, gathered from the charnel-ground bones and carved into ornaments: She wears anklets, a belt like an apron round her waist, necklaces, armbands, and bracelets. Every considered one of these has numerous meanings, however the important which means of all of the bone ornaments is to remind us of renunciation and impermanence. She’s going past conference; worry of demise has develop into an decoration to put on. We consider jewels as gold or silver or one thing fairly, however she’s taken that which is taken into account repulsive and turned it into an decoration. That is the transformation of the obstructed patterns into knowledge, taking what we worry and expressing it as an decoration.

The dakinis are likely to push us by means of blockages. They seem throughout difficult, essential moments once we may be stymied in our lives; maybe we don’t know what to do subsequent and we’re in transition. Perhaps an impediment has arisen and we will’t work out find out how to get round or get by way of—then the dakinis will information us. If ultimately we’re caught, the dakinis will seem and open the best way, push us by means of; typically the power must be forceful, and that’s when the wrathful manifestation of a dakini seems. One other necessary facet of the dakini’s female power is how they reduce by way of notions of pure and impure, clear and unclean, what it is best to do and shouldn’t do; they break open the shell of these typical buildings into an embrace of all life by which all expertise is seen as sacred.

Training Tibetan Buddhism extra deeply, I got here to comprehend that the dakinis are the undomesticated feminine energies—religious and erotic, ecstatic and clever, playful and profound, fierce and peaceable—which are past the grasp of the conceptual thoughts. There’s a place for our entire female being, in all its guises, to be current.


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